Hindu dating customs
Wedding ceremonies can be expensive, and costs are typically borne by the parents.It is not uncommon for middle-or upper-class weddings to have a guest list of over 500 people. Vedic rituals are performed and the family and friends then bless the couple.If the astrological chart of the two individuals (male and female) achieve the required threshold in points then further talks are considered for prospective marriage.Also the man and woman are given a chance to talk and understand each other.The use of jathakam or Janam Kundali (astrological chart at the time of birth) of the son/daughter to match with the help of a priest is common, but not universal.Parents also take advice from the brahman called 'Jothidar' in Tamil or 'panthulu or siddanthi ' in Telugu and Kundali Milaan in northern India, who has details of many people looking to get married.Once there is an agreement then an auspicious time is chosen for the wedding to take place.In recent years, with the onset of dating culture in India, arranged marriages have seen a marginal decrease, with prospective brides and grooms preferring to choose a spouse on their own and not necessarily only the one whom their parents find agreeable; this has been more pronounced in urban and suburban areas than rural regions.
Love marriage was also seen in historical Hindu literature and has been variously described by many names, such as Gandharva vivaha.
The maximum points for any match can be 36 and the minimum points for matching is 18.
Any match with points under 18 is not considered as an auspicious match for a harmonious relationship.
Interestingly, there are various instances from ancient scriptures of Hinduism, of romantic love marriages that were accepted in ancient times, for example Dushyanta and Shakuntala in the story of the Mahabharata.
Somewhere in the course of time, arranged marriages became predominant and love marriages became unacceptable or at least frowned upon.